Dating is tough. Safety tips for online dating app

Dating can be challenging for anyone, but for survivors of CSA, it can present unique hurdles and triggers. The effects of past trauma can profoundly impact one's ability to trust, establish healthy boundaries, and form intimate connections.

Online dating apps offer a potential avenue for survivors to explore romantic relationships at their own pace. However, there are some tips that survivors of CSA can use to navigate the dating world.

1. Take things slowly and don't rush into anything. Don't feel pressured to meet up with someone until you're comfortable.

2. It's ok to disclose your past to your potential partner: you aren't burdening them with a load but sharing a valuable part of yourself.

3. Set healthy boundaries and communicate them clearly: don't be afraid to say no if something doesn't feel right.

4. If something doesn't feel right, trust your instincts and don't ignore red flags.

5. Positive events can be triggers as much as potential adverse events since the typical cycle of abuse includes periods of kindness followed by periods of devaluation.

6. Seek support, whether a therapist, trusted friend, or family member can provide emotional guidance.

7. Take it at your own pace: there is no "right" or "wrong" timeline for dating or forming relationships.

Remember, healing takes time, and being patient and compassionate with oneself throughout the journey is essential.